If I Were Honest…

If I Were Honest

In vulnerability there is truth, there is authenticity and, there is freedom. Pull up a chair and let’s talk, let’s be honest. As a believer, talking about pain can be difficult. We’re supposed to be happy, forgive quickly, be meek and quiet, right? Sometimes people forget Christians are humans. Someone hurts us and demands instant forgiveness because after all, we are Christians. More than once that has been thrown in my face, in business … [Read more...]

Becoming Fearless

BECOMING FEARLESS

I've been pretty open about my struggle with fear on this blog. I've dealt with it most of my life in fact, I will say I missed a lot of opportunities because of it, I even sacrificed a few dreams to fear. Fear can be easily manipulated, I had more than my fair share of people use my fears to keep me in bondage or to keep me grounded in whatever plan they had for me. Fear can easily be a tool of abuse. Life hit me straight up in the face in … [Read more...]

When Life Doesn’t Turn Out The Way You Thought

Life Didn't Turn Out the Way I Thought

When I was 18 years old, I dreamt of working in the Christian music business. I traveled to Nashville, was accepted to a major university there and then, I went to a concert where I let some random guy talk me out of going. I didn't even know him, I don't know his name even today but I listened to the advice of a complete stranger who didn't know me from Adam and I left my dream behind. I think everyone has this dream of what life should be, … [Read more...]

Light It All On Fire: How to Burn Up Your Burdens

Burning Up Your Burdens

Many years ago, I participated in a ceremony of sorts after a class I was taking at church. The class was about purity and at the end of the class, everyone who had impure relationships listed those on a piece of paper and placed them in the fire. Basically, they were giving these hurts over to God and receiving his forgiveness, they were letting go. I say "they" because I was 17 when I was in this class and had not had these experiences … [Read more...]

I know You Don’t Like Me But, I’m Going to Be Me Anyway

I know You Don't Like Me

"You cannot live a brave life without disappointing someone." -Oprah I heard Oprah say that in an interview I was watching online and it hit me, hard. On New Years Eve, right before midnight, my family and I received the news my youngest cousin (age 22) had been killed in a car accident. Our family has never experienced that before, a loss, so young and so close to us. Saying it rocked us all would be an understatement. It never leaves you, … [Read more...]

Blogger Beware: I Was Cyberstalked & It’s Worse Than You Think

I Was Cyberstalked & It's Worse than You Think

I don't usually write about blogging. I mean, it's what I do but, I don't say much about it. I saw a post the other day that triggered something in my head, memories of something I survived that I have come to realize other bloggers are dealing with as well. And, quite honestly, I think it's time we talked about it. We've all heard of cyberstalking, right? According to the APC, cyberstalking can be defined as "(repeatedly) sending threats or … [Read more...]

How to Forgive the Same Person Every Single Day

How to Forgive the Same Person Every Single Day

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash "Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times? Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times." - Matthew 18-21-22 If you have read any part of my story, you know life has not been easy. The thing is, chances are, life is not easy for you either. A few blog posts ago, I spoke about forgiving someone … [Read more...]

Dear Church, We Are the Hurting

Dear Church, We Are The Hurting

"Years ago when my marriage fell apart most of my church abandoned me. I think I didn’t fit in the box anymore – my life was messy – and messy is uncomfortable. So I ended up finding myself really really alone." I read that in an article the other day and my heart sunk because first, I've been there and second, the reality is, many people are there right now. I love that she wrote this because it addresses something that is happening all … [Read more...]

Bury the Shame, Sunday is Coming

Bury the Shame

I feel like shame is a bigger problem than most people realize. Shame is traditionally defined as, "a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior." Many of you are carrying around shame right now, shame over something you did or thought or something someone else did to you. Shame will wreck your whole life. It is like a cancer, it starts small but, it will take root. The root of shame is … [Read more...]

Dear Church: It’s Time to Stop Enabling Abusive Men

Dear Church: It's Time to Stop Enabling Abusive Men

Friends, I want you to read this article. I want you to read it more than once. This is a controversial topic most will not even dare to speak of but bravely, this man did. Dear Church: It's Time to Stop Enabling Abusive Men I have a thousand thoughts, I have a thousand "Amen's!" I read this and cried, I read it again and shouted. This is one of those conversation starters, a conversation that needs to be happening in our church today. … [Read more...]